Valerie basically hops off a plane and immediately chats with Reggie about her trip. We chat about planning, mindful travel, ice cream, accents, and about how fear lives best in your head. Regina shall forever be known as Regina Gelati. This episode brought to you by jet lag. And also oversized Toblerones.
It seems weird that this the first time we're talking about gratitude on Help Wanted, when Oprah talks about it all the time. We discuss finding gratitude even in difficult times and share some tips with how you can cultivate a gratitude practice in daily life, besides just writing 3 or 5 things down in a journal. This episode is sponsored by Matcha Tea, I mean Mate Tea, I mean Matcha...? What's the difference between these teas?
Emotional labor is the avocado toast of women's topics these days. Valerie and Regina discuss the recent viral Harper's Bazaar piece written by Gemma Hartley and other articles on this topic and try to figure out what emotional labor actually and how it shows up in our relationships and workplaces. Is everything that you have a feeling around emotional labor? Or is it emotional labor the the work that work that comes with making decisions that keep our jobs and households moving, work that goes unspoken and that society takes for granted simply because women are usually the ones doing it? We get real in-depth. We also chat about harassment and assault and the groundswell of women and the media openly talking about it. This shit isn't going away. Help Wanted is sponsored the women who have to deal with their own harassment and assault experiences, while comforting their male friends who feel pretty bad up on learning their hero got naked in front of women and masturbated in front of them.
Rob Chenoweth joins us to talk about the book Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Lead by Tosha Silver. Reggie and Rob discuss how the principles of this book—surrendering the things that are out of our control—have helped them. Plus Valerie's been crying a lot and eating cornichons, Regina has a struggle with overnight oats. This episode sponsored by Real Lingo.
Are you flaky? Have you been flaked on? What about eczema? We have advice to avoid flaking (stop overcommitting!), explain why people do it, and some excuses for you if you're flaker who's never gonna change. Reggie thought the song was "Man On the Run" this whole time, and Valerie bought some expensive wheat germ oil. Plus Reggie's all about a whipped cream daiquiri, and Valerie broker her nose and stole some snacks from MedSpring urgent care. Sponsored by Thoughts and Prayers.
Tim Brewer joins us for a thoughtful conversation on atheism. Tim was raised by missionary parents in an Assemblies of God church. He talks about his experiences, how he eventually made the move to atheism, and his perceptions on how religion negatively influences society. Tim schools us on the Bible facts (he knows a lot!), and we also talk about those speaking in tongues and faith healing—the manic pixie dream girl activities of Christianity.
Comedian, writer, and folk musician Matt Flynn joins Help Wanted to talk about going out and about living life and doing activities solo versus with a pal/partner. Plus Valerie has a lot of junk mail and Reggie's a fan of Discount Tire. We also talk about singleness versus relationshipness. Sponsored by Boo Cards, business cards that arrive so quickly, it's scary!
Valerie and Reggie talk about dental bling. Lauren Cohen from Hope and Humor Therapy joins us to discuss emotionally engaged dating. She talks about the "cool chick" phenomena and gives us permission to be fully communicate our wants and needs in dating scenarios. Apparently if we don't communicate and respect our needs, they come out anyway in weird ways (for instance we may spend $300 on lipsticks that are all the same shade of red or eat a box of blueberry cake donuts, just as examples, we've never actually done those things. We swear!).This episode is sponsored by Walgreen's, the Randall's of drug stores. Walgreen's for when you need Loreal Voluminous Mascara and everywhere else is closed.
There are a bazillion different kinds of boundaries (physical, emotional, spiritual) and Help Wanted explores how defining each can improve our relationships with others. Also, cheese and crackers by themselves are drab dorm food, but add grapes and all the sudden you're fancy on a romantic picnic. Reggie thinks the highest compliments are when a gay guy tells you're beautiful and a child says you're funny. Plus Reggie's going to Vegas and Valerie visited a dirt church in New Mexico. This episode is sponsored by Ecru Emu Eggs. Tired of eating plain ol white chicken eggs like a basic Becky? Try an ecru emu egg! It’s light beige, so it’s more exotic!
Should you pursue a job you love? Or one where you make money? Ben "nice handwriting" Howell talks about the things he's passionate about, including his job, and how he makes decisions. The episode was recorded before Anthony Scaramucci got canned, so we pronounce his name in all the fun ways. Plus Valerie can't get enough of hand-pulled noodles and Reggie tries to make ramen fancy. Sponsored by Guys Who Watch You Parallel Park.
We chat with Angie Yaeyama about the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine. Angie shares how reading it helped her recognize her attachment style (three to choose from: anxious, avoidant, and secure), and how that can change depending on what attachment style the person she's in a relationship exhibits. Plus Valerie's unsure if she should go on a third date and Reggie hung out with her nephew's nephew.Angie runs a book club in Austin for female-identifying folks called Empathy for the Win - bookclub. Interested people can join on Facebook. Sponsored by that Cute Chick Who's Banging Your Ex and Posting Photos of their Smug Happy Ass Faces on Facebook.
The hilarious Rebecca Westerkom joins Valerie and Reggie to talk about ridiculous and not-so-ridiculous things we fear: flyovers, fires, firefighters, zip lines, chips and queso, and leaving your children parentless because you both flew on a plane that ended up crashing, among other things. Plus Reggie's annoyed when her treadmill territory is threatened and Valerie has a spiritual experience at Trader Joe's and then tells everyone about it. Sponsored by Facebook's photos of you from 5 years ago (when you peaked!).
Help Wanted talks with renaissance woman and experienced volunteer about her different volunteering experiences, picking organizations and activities that fit, questions to ask yourself before you start volunteering, avoiding compassion fatigue, and meeting men in the produce section of the grocery store. Ryan has been involved with the community for years: teaching English as a second language, building houses with Habitat for Humanity, handing out mail at a homeless shelter, reading for the blind, and more. Regina celebrates her home-a-versary, Valerie tells an incredibly long story about stealing a chair from a volunteer. Plus, a dissection of the Blue Man Group, Pepto Bismal fandom, and being done with America. This episode is sponsored by Getting Dragged Away (a not uncommon thing that happens if you live in the USA).
Aaron Salinas joins Help Wanted to talk about complicated family dynamics, how he found out his father is gay, and how he has found acceptance around his dad's homosexuality, even while his dad hasn't yet come out to him. Plus The Cracker Barrel and Reggie and Valerie are both exhausted from binge watching Orange is the New Black. This episode is sponsored by the British pronunciation of the word "schedule."
Tom Booker once did a commercial with Melania Trump. He knows bad times. Yet in spite of that, he's a pretty positive person. He joins Help wanted to talk about staying positive even when things suck. The comedian, theater owner, name dropper, and president of Austin also discloses his morning meditation routine, the motives behind his positive social media posts, a story of being invited to perform in a pornographic movie, and his collection of parked domains. Valerie booked a trip to Copenhagen, and Regina's going to Vegas. Sponsored by avocado tattoos.
Bubbalicious bubble gum doesn't exist anymore and white chocolate candy is taking over the world, and Valerie blames Trump. Regina is discombobulated, down and out, but couch and 5king it. When Valerie and Regina were 16, they were sneaking out past curfew (shhhhh, don't tell their parents) but these days teenagers are saving the world. At least that's what Maddy and Eleanor, two ambitious high school students are doing. They and their friends helped Texas Senator draft legislation to make it requirement that Texas students learn about human trafficking. Human trafficking is a big problem; 313,000 people in Texas are trafficked each year, and 79,000 of them are young people every year. It's a topic that isn't talked about much in the media and Maddy and Eleanor are working to bring this topic to light. We also find out how these two young women feel about feminism. This episode is sponsored by: capers, the salty snack that's perfect to eat when you're on an actual caper.
Help Wanted will see you next week with an episode on human trafficking.
Help Wanted talks about toxic patterns in mother daughter relationships, famous tv moms, and giving moms a break. Plus, Valerie's pro Greg Kinnear, and Reggie doesn't know what to think of him. Reggie thinks matchy matchy Sears family photos are definitely a white person thing, and Valerie is still carrying around Tiny Pies weight and wants an emcee gig at the Buda Weiner Dog races. This episode sponsored by Clark's Middle Management Shoes.
Comedian Jennifer Dorsey joins Help Wanted to talk about all the stupid things women apologize for and why it's so hard to apologize when you're actually wrong. Jennifer is also filled with fun facts about the Irish famine, Little Women, and the origin of margarine (rate your favorite: Parkay? Country Crock? Fleishman's?). This episode is sponsored by Twix Fix: one Twix won't solve everything but two Twix can fix anything!
Actor and comedian Brittany Flurry (The Naked Feminist, Team Teamwork Productions) talks with Help Wanted about oversharing, and how we might be prone to doing it because we're more and more disconnected as a society. What's authentic and what's A LOT? Does it matter if the thing shared is sad and gloomy or entertaining? How do we discern what's enough and what's too much? Reading the room and asking yourself "is this helpful?" are a couple of ways to think about what we're sharing and when. How do we respond on social media when someone's breaking down or TMIing every post. Ultimately sharing might be caring.Plus how to buy a car and why is everyone we went to high school with selling Rodan + Fields mascara? Sponsored by Accidental Run in w/Your Ex!
Do you have a problem with gossip? It might not even be a problem. Because we like finding loopholes for trash talking, Help Wanted found research to support that gossip can be healthy for forming social bonds. Some folks even believe that Neanderthals gossiped and that fire, grooming, and hunting and gathering all provided venues for the chatty cave people of yore to comment on Becki's messy hair and Dylan's bitchy attitude. We also contemplate differences between caramel, butterscotch, and toffee. Reggie is not a fan of Paula Abdul, but loves a PayDay and a hollow chocolate Santa Claus, while Valerie's fave candy is a PB Reese's egg. This episode sponsored by Magic 8 Balls, when coin flipping isn't an option because of your poor hand-eye coordination and when eeney miney mo won't work because of its racial slurs, try the Magic 8 Ball!.
"Wanna Netflix and ill?" is Regina's new motto. She's been feverish and remains fearful about having sepsis. Valerie had a rage attack at the Fiat dealership and later on drove 5 miles with her handbrake on because she's car illiterate. Karen Blaney joins us to talk about sustainability and the environment. We talk about unnecessary plastic wrappers and things you can do to lower your carbon footprint that you might not be thinking about. Want the skinny on composting? Karen's got it. Did you know there's a Union of Concerned Scientists? They're an earnest group with a list of 10 Personal Solutions to Global Warming. Sponsored by Room Service Sized Condiments.
Help Wanted debuts their first live episode. Reggie and Valerie seek advice from some of Austin's funniest comics and hear their sets as well. Elizabeth Spears has opinions on Funyuns, and we learn about her roommate's dog, and Regina's favorite gas station treat: Munchos. Ali Thompson talks about dick pics and quality t-shirts. Robert Segovia is an expert on Chicago food and office etiquette and Vanessa Gonzalez shares birth control chicken nugget conspiracy theories and tells us why she's obsessed with sax solos. This episode is sponsored by DIY IUDs, Standup Comic Standup Desks, and Box Box.
Rage attacks are on the rise, post-election. Did you know that in the 2 hours following a fit of rage, you're more likely to have a heart attack. We talk about how breathing exercises, meditation, and being around others can help us tame our inner rage and learn that the cause for being prone to rage is sometimes due to brain injuries. Reggie might have a leg infection and Valerie feels like she can't breathe, either from Austin's vile allergies or from walking pneumonia. Valerie doesn't feel malaise or laissez-faire or nicoise. Plus gorilla families, grocery budgets, cast iron skillets, ear bumps, and brussels sprouts. WARNING: This episode features a lotta gross body talk for some reason. This episode sponsored by Episodes of Nova You DVR But Never Watch, because in this political climate watching PBS documentaries on climate change is just TOO much.
Regina on a hunt for a free cupcake and shares an icky saga of her sweet doggie Annie (a small-mouthed stoic animal) being attacked by a neighborhood dog who got into Reggie's yard via a fence hole. We do a deep dive into the circumstances and a sort of People's Court ruling on who needs to pay for what. We also have tips for what you can do if your dog is attacked by another. We also have tips for what you should do if you find yourself in such an unfortunate situation as a dog attack. Valerie talks kitten socialization, almost naming her cat Joe Biden, IUDs and breastfeeding. Brussel sprouts are a delicious and trendy veggie! This episode sponsored by Bath WMDs, the bath product sold everywhere the UN won't look.